Relationships

Our identities are formed from our relationships, in a process of simultaneous and interdependent cosseting. Any role we play in existence is only manifested through a relational process, in which we develop and express ourselves as people through interactions with the other, with otherness, with that element that serves as a mirror for us.

As our perceptions of reality are self-referential, they willinevitably be incomplete, partial, right from the start. As Fernando Pessoa says in his poem, "...what we see is not what we see, but what we are." In this way, the relational dimension of our existence can be a source of great contentment and richness, as it reveals to us other visions of the world, other ways of looking at facts and their effects.
In a proposal to simplify life we must consider the possibility of relating to other beings and to events in a more authentic way. As we free ourselves from the need to meet or see our expectations fulfilled, our level of frustration decreases considerably. This doesn't mean giving up on enjoying the process of improvement, whether our own or that of another being. But it does mean enjoying this process as a journey, seeing the result as a goal, a means, and not as an end in itself.

In practice, simplifying the relational dimension of our existence has to do with reconnecting, first and foremost, with our own wholeness. It has already been said that we are whole beings who feel incomplete. Because of this, many misunderstandings in the field of relationships can be resolved by clarifying which aspects of our deficiencies or incompleteness can be met by returning to our own wholeness.